Loneliness is a state of no connection to other people that appreciate you, care for you and give you attention. Loneliness is also that feeling when you don’t see your place in the world. We all experience it from time to time.
Loneliness is part of being human. But we can overcome it with some interesting tips. Here are my two cents about dealing with loneliness. The best ways to overcome loneliness is to love yourself first, but here is what else you can do.
Dealing With Loneliness – How to Overcome It
1. Create Something.
Maybe your hobby is writing (nothing heals better than words). Maybe it’s painting or music. Maybe it’s a new type of art. Whatever you choose to create, express yourself. Post your creations online for the world to see. Maybe you see other people doing same things like you’re doing. You can meet like-minded people and maybe even make some friends.
2. Listen To Emotional Music.
We like to listen emotional music when we’re feeling down or dealing with loneliness. Often we’ll even cry. But that is not bad. I read that tears of deep emotion have more natural painkillers in them. That’s why we probably feel better after crying.
3. Write Down a List of Things That Makes You Happy.
If your stuck or have no idea what to do, or just feel like there’s something missing – pick up the piece of paper and start writing. Write what is important to you. What are the things in your life that light you up? Anything from going to the cinema, watching some comedy channel on Youtube to cooking a dessert.
Every true bookworm would tell you that books can be better than people anyway. They don’t argue with you. You always learn from them. They take you to amazing worlds. One of the books that you should definitely check out is How to Win Friends and Influence People in the Digital Age. It’s really good.
5. Become Curious About Other People.
Talk to other people about them. Don’t talk about what you did – ask people about them. Talk to them about things that you see them wearing, holding or saying. Do this everywhere. You will make new friends in the most unlikely of places, like dry cleaners or bus station.
6. Engage Yourself With Cool Activities.
Start engaging yourself with activities that will keep your brain busy. Create a list of things you would like to try or learn. You can add anything to the list – like visiting a city nearby or traveling to some exotic location, learning to play a guitar, joining a dance or painting class, learning a new language… After you’ve finished the list. Think of the each activity and how you can do it. For example, if your wish is to learn Spanish, you can use an app called Duolingo. It’s a free app which can be used to learn new languages.
7. Start Exercising.
From a biological standpoint, it releases endorphins, but it also keeps your mind focused on one thing and makes you feel productive. Go out to run every morning or evening. Greet all those fellow runners whom you pass by. Smile at them. This way they will start recognizing you everyday and might even interact with you. Join a gym or pilates class where you will do or learn something new and meet some cool people.
There are lots of organizations that try to improve the lives of people in their community. Visit an orphanage, old-age home, or any place where you can lend a helping hand. You will meet other people that are also trying to do something good.
9. Use Your Loneliness.
Dealing with loneliness is not always a bad thing. Loneliness gives you a chance to get to know yourself better. Loneliness is your reality at the moment, so try to accept it. Not forever, but in this moment, right now. Write about it, paint about it or speak about it. Maybe you can inspire someone. Help someone.